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Authors: Stan Findus
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She might have sex with a man because she feels lonely, but is not interested in him as a serious partner. It could be that her boyfriend does not trigger her emotions of lust and therefore has sex with some other guy to quench this need. It’s possible that she has sex with a random guy to be able to keep going with her life.
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Having sex can have serious consequences for her. However, if we compare the risks of a modern woman with those of a primal woman, we can conclude that the modern woman has a lot less to worry about:
She has birth control, which gives her a choice of whether to get pregnant or not.
She can raise a child without the support of a man. Even if she struggles, she’s far better off than her primal ancestors. The difference between having a man’s support and protection and
not
having it, is no longer a matter of survival.
She can get pregnant with a man who’s not able to provide for her. If a primal woman was to have a baby with a man without the capacity or means to bring back food to the cave, she wouldn’t have a lot to eat. The modern woman will most likely always have enough resources to keep herself and her child healthy.
If she gets pregnant she can find another man who’s not the biological father to take care of her and her child, which is becoming increasingly more common when the man has more than enough resources to share.
The social stigmas of the past do not apply anymore in our society. Just until very recently, a woman who slept around could risk severe consequences, not only from men but also from women. Women would scorn and ostracize her because they did not want to share the resources their man brought back to her and her children. Men also did not trust a woman like this because they couldn’t be sure if babies she gave birth to were his. So, in most instances, promiscuous behaviour on the part of a woman frequently lead to her becoming an outcast.
Indeed, a woman nowadays has far lesser worries and engages in all kinds of sexual and relational acts that might not seem the right choice from an evolutionary point of view. This could lead you to think that such women are not selecting in the same way as her ancestors, which is far from true for two reasons:
The first reason is that selection is always an emotional process based on her instincts. She still feels the same emotions as those that were felt by her primal ancestors. When a modern woman has sex, her emotions still tell her she might end up pregnant even though her rational mind tells her she used birth control. In the struggle between emotion and rationale, her emotions will always play the upper hand.
The second reason is that when a woman believes she will not be harmed, she can indulge in her primal emotions. As such, she believes there will be no repercussions from her actions and this leaves her the choice to not hold back.
This in turn, opens the door to one night stands, multiple sex partners and serial monogamy. She realizes her options are far more open now than ever before. Her primal ancestors were no different. They also had sex for different reasons and they also made the balance between the benefits
and
the risks.
The only difference? Well, the balance of risks and benefits have changed in favour of the modern woman, which means her sexual decisions carry far less weight. Therefore she can select in a less systematic, but still primal way.
The Right Guy Is a Real Guy
The process of sexual selection helps her to discern which guy is the right one and which is the wrong one.
You might think that this process of selection is an
exact
science, but it isn’t. The decisions she makes are not rational in any way as explained before. From a rational point of view she knows which guys have more resources, are trustworthy, have a higher social status, look better, are more committed, are more successful in life, etc.
A typical masculine mistake is to look at these matters from a rational point of view. They assume that the ‘best man’ always wins over a lesser man. Don’t make the same mistake about which men give women satisfaction. Look at it from an emotional point of view and understand that only the right guy knows how to reach her primal emotions.
So stop pressuring yourself by trying to be the best man. She’s just not that interested in your latest sex trick or how many girls you've bedded. Focus on triggering her primal desires in the right kind of way. Show-boating, looking for approval or bragging about your assets will not trigger her emotions in the right way. Except if you’re looking for gold digging girls, then this approach may work. Yet, even these women are not triggered in the typical way, as they only get triggered by the wealth you can provide to them.
Instead, there is an alternative in the form of the 'real' guy. Only he can give her an ultimate sexual experience because he is someone who is at peace with himself. Comfortable in his own skin, he understands that he has strengths and weaknesses.
Sometimes things go his way, but sometimes they don’t. Either way, he is fine with what he is because he has confidence in himself. The best lover is always at peace with himself, because he believes he can add value to not just his, but also
her
general and sexual life. This gives him a sense of pride and dominance.
Other men, who don’t have the confidence of being themselves, hope to add value by showing her a false image. These are not the type of men that can trigger her primal emotions because they are hiding their insecurities and primal desires behind a mask.
More often than not, the female is able to see right through this. She's instinctively aware that something is missing and that he’s trying to make up for it in the wrong way. These men are the opposite of what an alpha male is.
An alpha or real man, needs no mask to cover his insecurities. He has insecurities, but he is able to show them with confidence. He can also express his primal desires without inhibitions because he is not afraid that she will see right through his disguise or judge him. For a woman, it’s easy to pick out the real guys from the fake guys.
Women can easily select men who are lying, hiding or portraying things that are not true. They do this by looking for inconsistencies in your stories and behaviour, meaning that what you are portraying doesn’t match with reality. She would ask herself, j
ust which one is the real you? Would she like, or want, you if she found out?
There are obvious ways a male can seem inconsistent or portray elements that are in-congruent with what's on the outside for the world to see. For example, acting like you have a lot of money and then showing up with your crappy little car or lying that you don’t live with your mom while you still do.
But there are also very subtle things women notice, like being hesitant to ask the waiter for some extra ketchup whilst trying to give her the image of a bad boy. For her, this will seem like a lame attempt to gain on some unfair ground with her.
If you’re afraid of asking for some extra ketchup, this means you have some blatant self-confidence issues. You could try to mask this with your fake bad boy attitude, but it’s better that you don’t. It’s OK that you are shy because overall because it's a better look than faking something you are not.
In contrast, we have another common example, and that's of a guy wearing a ‘good boy’ mask.
He is nice, considerate and even seems like the perfect son in law. Yet behind his mask, he has all kinds of sexual desires he can’t share with her. A woman feels he is not a real guy when having sex because he’s afraid to go primal on her. This makes her sexually frustrated as he is not meeting up to her primal need of lust.
It’s time to realize that she won’t reject you for your imperfections or because of your deviant thoughts. Once you are ready to accept yourself, she will too. Share these things with her. If you want her to believe that you are something you are not and she picks up on it, a red flag will pop up in her mind. This may make her decide to end the sexual relationship or cause her to lose respect and interest in you.
Being real is a turn-on for woman. It makes her select you as the man that
‘gets it’
. This means that nothing you do is forced because all of your actions are the result of your confidence. You’re not too focused or obsessed with being the winner, the best lover or dominating everything and everyone around you. You are your own man, not seeking approval in the eyes of others.
This creates positive emotions inside her because she is being reassured that you are comfortable with yourself. And only if you feel you are, she can feel the same. It also helps you with becoming more dominant because she will respect you for what you are.
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Who is Mr. Right?
In this section, we will discuss how you can become the real guy that she needs. He creates strong feelings of lust and trust because he knows how to lead her through the ultimate sexual experience. But when she doesn’t trust you, she will definitely not want to follow you in the same way she would if she
did.
That’s why you need to return her feelings of love by committing yourself into building her trust. Only then, can you lead her into an ultimate sexual experience. This does not mean she can’t have a good sexual experience when there is little to no commitment or love from her side. It does mean though, it will not be her
best
experience because you can only lead so far.
Overview
Position yourself as dominant, yet respectful man and she will slip into a role in which she follows you.
Take control and she will no longer have rational objections. Only then can she be free to indulge in her emotional desires.
Commitment and a deeper trust are not always necessary, but when there’s love from her side she hopes for commitment.
There are different reasons for how she selects, it’s either based on love or a more casual motive.
5. The Ultimate Bliss, Your Dominance and Commitment
Your willingness to commit and alpha attitude is all she ever dreamt about.
Dominance Through Equality
It’s clear that male dominance has become an ‘issue’ for a lot of people and even bringing it up can cause negative reaction. Just mentioning that a woman might
need
a man for something is enough to upset some circles. But it’s common sense I think, that a straight woman needs a dominant man to have a fulfilling sexual experience.
Of course you want to rampage her pussy and believe me that she wants the same, but it can be hard to overcome some barriers formed by a politically correct mentality.
Lust is a primal desire that has nothing to do with being politically correct. Don’t think you are not respecting her because you fuck her hard. No, respect her desires of lust by going ‘primal’ on her and she will be thankful you did.
A lot of taboos that revolve around dominance are the result of confusion. Dominance can be easily mistaken for feeling superior, stronger, more intelligent, etc. Well, this view is essentially wrong, unhealthy and is very counter-productive in your quest of becoming her best lover.
The problem with this way of thinking is that she will not submit without a fight. If you handle her like this, you are taking away her sense of inner value. She
will
fight back to get back some self-esteem, power and control.
A better and healthier way of dominance is through the path of equality. If you present yourself as a dominant and respectful man, she will feel the natural urge to slip into a submissive role because it will feel right. She will not feel any urge to fight back because she feels accepted and respected.
It would not feel right in her everyday life, but she craves for it in her love life. Of course, she likes to go to school, get that promotion, decide on where to go and when. But when it comes to sexuality, women are still hoping for men to take the initiative, which places them automatically in a submissive position. She does not want a man to take initiative and lead her because she is not capable to do this herself, but because it feels right on an emotional level.
She will feel much more comfortable when the man initiates the first kiss, arranges what restaurant to go to or takes charge in the bedroom. All of these are examples of a woman being dependent on a man. She gives away a part of her power and control to feel feminine when she is around you.
She wants to feel this way around you just as much as you want to feel masculine when you’re with her. Would you like it if she opened the door at the bar like some kind of gentlewoman? Of course not! Because you wouldn’t feel like a masculine man and she would not feel like a feminine woman.
In the modern world, Men and women’s capacities are equal. She can open a door, make a reservation for a restaurant, order herself a drink, give herself an orgasm, etc. She is in no way lesser than a man and therefore deserves to be treated with respect. She will be thankful that you accept her femininity and you have to be thankful that she is giving you this control. She is only capable of giving this gift to the man she trusts because only the right guy may lead her.
Dominance Liberates Her
…It was after dinner and we returned to our place. All evening there had been that sexual tension between us; even in that restaurant. Every smile, every laugh or light brush of fingertips on each other’s skin had been seduction.